All species are created by nature in pairs, the male and the female. The male and the female differ not only in their physical attributes but also in their thoughts. Males are usually taller and stronger than their female counterparts. The males are also more aggressive and violent compared to the females.

There seems to be no logical explanation why man and woman born to the same parents should be so different in their mental and physical attributes. However, both have survived and their numbers are almost equal. If Darwin’s theory of survival of the fittest is true, male and female attributes appear to have an equal chance of success, despite the fact that males are much stronger than females.

While we are quite familiar with the man’s way of solving the problem, that is, by using power, the woman’s method of solving the problem is hardly understood. Consider a typical family in which the male (father) earns his living and cares for the family. The mother is logically the most powerless person in the family. She does not own wealth as all her wealth is earned by her father. She has no power as all the power is in the hands of the father. Children are totally dependent on the father for their survival and protection.

However, even in such a situation, the mother finds a way that ensures not only her respectable survival in the family, but very often ensures that she occupies the highest position in the family. Often the mother’s authority is so strong that everyone does what she says and follows her orders without a whisper of opposition.

Recently, while listening to the divorce petition, Justice Katju, Justice of the Supreme Court of India, advised a husband who was fighting for divorce with his wife in the following words

“Do what the wife tells you and never question her authority… You must always agree with her. When you agree with what she says, you will always be happy. If she tells you to look this way, do that And if she tells you to look away in the next moment, do that again.”

And to convince them of the usefulness of his advice, he said:

“We speak from experience”

Most of us would agree that this is true, as we have seen the importance of the mother increase in a typical family. However, it is a mystery how a woman can acquire such a prominent position in the family without earning a penny and without exercising any power.

The answer to this question can change the paradigm of our life and provide a new method to solve a problem without exercising power. The best thing is that such an exercise of power has no consequences.

The mystery of the feminine

Females are often called the weaker sex, since they are physically weaker than males. However, in modern times, they may take offense at being called the weaker sex, as they have proven to be not only equal to men but even better than men in more ways than one. They now hold the highest positions in politics and work in almost every profession previously considered the exclusive domain of men. They have also broken the myth that they are less intelligent or less analytical. In 2009, women held the top three positions in the Indian Civil Service, India’s most prestigious competition for the selection of the country’s best bureaucrats. However, even when they are in power, there is always a difference in working methods between men and women.

Today, most men would agree that women are not inferior to men. However, they are certainly different from men not only in physical attributes but also in their thoughts. They have developed methods to overcome their lack of physical power with other methods that are equally effective in solving life’s problems.

Feminine methods are the very essence of spirituality that lies beyond the realm of logic and reason. The prophets have preached these methods in the scriptures so that the world dominated by masculine traits can be balanced with a dose of feminine charm. Women have spirituality in their blood, while men have to discover spirituality to achieve balance in their life.

FIVE FEMININE METHODS TO SOLVE PROBLEMS

Females solve their problem not by force but by persuasion. Instead of using power to change the other person’s mind (which never works), they use charm to do it. Instead of using physical power, they use soul power.

These methods can be summarized as follows:-

1. attract

The most important feminine traits are that they make themselves attractive. They have soft features, a sweet voice, and a charming style to attract people, especially men. Men generally seek power so that they can use it to force others to do what they want. They exercise to make the body stronger and full of muscles. Women, however, prefer to make their body lean and slim so as not to appear strong and powerful. Instead of power, they prefer to use their charm to make the other person do the job. That is why they pay attention to their appearance, which they know attracts males. They know that the best method of getting other people to do the work is to draw them to her in such a way that their soul comes into contact with her soul, which allows their soul to communicate directly with the soul of another person. Once the other person’s soul is influenced, the other person’s mind is transformed and he himself (powerful person) seeks to do the job without asking.

2. Serve

The second most important trait of women is their desire to serve. A typical mother serves her husband and children with all her heart. She feels happy and satisfied by serving the best food to her husband and children and taking care of her daily needs. She is so good at serving that the family cannot imagine being without her. Through service, she becomes important and even indispensable to all other members of the family. Thus she acquires her position not for money or power but for her service. The best thing is that she does it in silence without looking for anything in return. Jesus Christ advised people to selflessly serve all humanity in the following verse (Matthew 6:1-4)

Therefore, when you give to the needy, do not blow the trumpet in front of yourself, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, to be praised by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward. When you give alms, let your left hand not know what your right hand is doing, so that your alms may be in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.

3 love

Females believe in love more than hate. Love in the most natural feeling in women. Only women know the meaning of the unconditional love they have for their children. This love is the most sacred since not only the woman but all the female species in the world have the same love for their children. Parental love is, however, quite conditional in that it is based on the behavior of the child. It is logical since no other male species feels the love of the father for her children. It is wisely said: “God could not be everywhere, that’s why he created mothers.”

4. Non-violence

Hatred of all kinds of violence is the most natural attribute of the feminine. It is a fact that more than ninety nine percent of all murders are committed by men in this world. The females are creators of life for which they give their flesh and blood and suffer the pains of childbirth. You know the pain in the creation of life, therefore never attempt to take a life. The males, however, are quick to take life as they have not suffered the pain of life’s creation. Nonviolence is also one of the most important spiritual messages in all religions. jesus said

“To the one who hits you on the cheek, offer him the other also; and to the one who takes your cloak, do not deny him your shirt either.”

While such methods may seem absurd and impractical to the male species that is used to the “tit for tat” policy, it is a natural reaction for females. They know that turning the other cheek is the surest method to transform the enemy’s soul and turn its hatred into love.

5. Understand

Women have learned the art of negotiation naturally, as being the weaker sex, they cannot rely on power to get the job done. It is due to a better understanding of people; They know what the cause of the problem is. Once they know the cause, they can easily solve the problem by manipulating the cause. So instead of using force against the enemy, they try to understand the mind of the other person. This understanding helps them find ways to meet the person’s need in exchange for what the person needs. In a family it is the mother who best understands her father and her children since all her attention is focused on understanding each member of her family. It is through a good understanding that she can predict their behaviors and solve their problems.

The best way to solve problems

Using female methods, most of the world’s problems can be solved without resorting to power. These methods are known to humanity since its inception but are not used as they do not produce immediate results. These methods are the essence of all spiritual traditions and scriptures. They may not seem logical, but they are effective. Power based methods are effective in the short term but counterproductive as power breeds hate and hate destroys the world. If you want long-term solutions, it is always advisable to follow the feminine method to solve a problem. Male methods should be used sparingly, such as surgery, as they are painful and avoidable.