Are you having problems with your wife or girlfriend and feel like you are one argument away from an aneurysm? Do you yell and scream at the slightest provocation? Do you feel like she will never be happy and that she goes so crazy that you think you could just get up and walk away?

If you feel this way, you are not alone. We’ve all heard of crazy women and I’m sure the men hang out and they all talk about crazy arguments with tiger wives and how crazy their women can get through the smallest incident.

But let me tell you that taming a madwoman is actually so easy, you would be surprised. It is as easy as for Adriana Lima to make a man hard. The key to calming her down and making her love you again is to treat her the right way AND doing it QUICKLY, before it starts to boil.

During an argument, men want to take time out to let the air clear or to think things over, but when a woman starts to get angry, you have to quickly calm her anger. The space and time to think make it spiral out of control and in Crazyville.

His madness is actually a plea for your love and help

The best way to disconnect her from her crazy place is talk to her injured, not his anger.

Every ‘crazy’ woman has a soft center. In fact, I would bet to say that the crazier the woman is (here I am using crazy loosely, if she is really insane and suffering from mental illness, then that’s a different article), the softer the center is. Noisy, explosive, volatile, furious and devilish women are actually extremely sensitive and experience pain very intensely.

A woman acts crazy because she feels that she is emotionally in survival mode. She feels, in that moment, something so strong inside that I would equate it with being pushed out of a car in the middle of the desert and with nowhere to go. She feels abandoned and completely alone. In fact, I’ve talked to clients who say that a man who leaves them emotionally hurts them worse than if he just punched her in the face.

You could have done something you thought was small, put her aside for the weekend, or told her that you didn’t think you were ready for an engagement, but to her, you might as well have told her that she’s a piece of trash who can’t. to be loved. . Yeah, it’s that extreme feeling for her.

Does the fact that she’s acting crazy mean she has low self-esteem? Not necessarily. What I would equate with her having low self esteem is more how YOU behave in the relationship. If you are not an honorable man, completely honest, generous, loyal and tender with her, then she has low self-esteem. Why? Because women with healthy levels of self-confidence only waste their time with good men. If you embody all these great qualities and she is still constantly in your case like an angry hyena, I would say that she is mentally ill or you are not clear about what she needs from you.

Look, women need different things than men think they need. A man could be taking all the right steps with a woman (buying her things, listening to her, having an affair with her, pleasing her sexually, making her laugh, etc.), but if he isn’t emotionally available to her (opening up, talking about commitment, expressing the desire to take care of her for a long time, inviting her into your life by revealing her secrets, staying in the room during an argument, etc.), then she may feel that he is not safe. ‘

WOMEN NEED TO FEEL SAFE. If you don’t get anything from this article, please know a lot about us. For sure, I don’t mean financially or spiritually, I mean emotionally. We need to feel that you will not let us go free when times get tough, nor will you hide parts of yourself from us, nor will you make your need for validation of all women more important than your need to be exclusively loved by us. If we feel that you are overly concerned about how other women see you or that you give your ‘male freedoms’ more priority than us, we will feel insecure with you.

How to tame a crazy woman

The GOOD NEWS is that you can turn it off ‘crazy’ in the blink of an eye. You can take it from 60 to 2 in a matter of seconds. How? You have to connect with his heart Instead of trying to rationalize with the crazy monstrous part of her that is throwing the remote control at your head. I repeat: STOP RATIONALIZING WITH HER.

Now, by speaking to your heart, I don’t mean a quack speech (“Honey, you know I love you. Why are you acting like this? I don’t want to hurt you, honey”). do you have any idea of ​​a stud that can sweet talk to babies. She will see through him. Even if you buy it, you will go crazy again in a few days. Why? Because you’re not really being honest, you’re just telling him what he wants to hear.

To speak to a woman’s heart, you have to come from a genuinely loving place. You have to be able to see the scared girl with pink tails and a fleshy lip that’s underneath all those screams. She is there, I promise you, and she is TERRIFIED and DESPERATE for your love.

Right now, imagine how your wife looked when she was a child. How ADORABLE was she? Was she silly, silly, shy, loud? Was she short, plump, freckled, or brave? Take a moment to look at it in your head and fall in love with that adorable little princess (or tomboy) who could give the devil back his angel wings with a toothless smile.

Do you feel that part of you right now that feels affection for her? Do you feel that part of you that wants to take care of her, protect her, hug her and kiss her gently? That feeling has to be the springboard for your communication with her when she is on the verge of insanity.

When it seems like she’s about to get angry: look her in the eye, connect with her (even if you have to confront her) and tell her that she is your everything and that you are sorry. You don’t have to apologize for your actions if you feel like you weren’t wrong, but OMG, apologize for the way you made her feel.

Take it easy and touch her while you send her love with your eyes. She needs to know that you are listening (not with your ears, but with ALL of your attention) and that you want to help her feel safe again. (She is acting like a maniac because she feels insecure.)

Don’t badmouth him! Talk to her like you know she’s better than the way she acts, but you’re not superior to her just because she’s so emotional.

So I want you to wait for her to connect with you and calm down. She may continue to scream and scream for a few seconds, but you have to stay with her and not give up on that little girl inside her. It is your duty, as her man, take care of that little girl inside that angry woman and attend to her feelings of youth and fear.

You can still tell him to stop yelling, throwing things, blaming, etc. Be firm, be direct but be an adult with that little girl. Once your ‘little boy’ starts yelling, calling her crazy, abandoning her, or blocking her … lost its power. You have become as childish as her.

Be an honorable man

Turning off a woman’s crazy rage isn’t going to work if you just say what you say and don’t. You can’t speak to a woman’s heart and then turn around the next day and treat her as a choice, a doormat, a sex kitten, a baby mama, the biggest fan in your fan club, etc. You have to treat her like … are you listening? … she holds your value as a man in his heart.

She has to be your priority, your confidant, YOUR safe place, your idol, your light at the end of the tunnel, your dear savior angel, your ego. And I know right now you want to tie it to a tree, soap it with honey and leave it for a hungry bear, but if you can have the trust To stop listening to her dark side that is in survival mode and start loving the little girl inside her, you will completely change it in a few days.

The beautiful thing about women is that if you make them feel safe in the way I mentioned above, 9 out of 10 will step up and be a safe place for you. They will keep all your secrets, keep your dreams alive and fill your life with light.

‘Crazy’ (overly emotional and explosive) women are no exception. In fact, crazy girls have a side that is magnificent. Crazy women have a side that ADORNS a man. Why? Because they are more childish than other women (remember the little girl) and they see you like a daughter makes a father– adoring eyes and a radiant glow in your being!

When your lady goes crazy, remember that she is not targeting you or trying to hurt you. I know it feels like this; I know you think she’s a sadist with a big set of tits, but her anger isn’t about you. It’s about what you’ve unleashed inside her, it feels like she’s fighting for his life. I know it sounds strange and dramatic, but it’s true. If you speak to her from the heart and really try to LISTEN to her pain and tell her that you are sorry and that you always want to take care of her feelings, she will not know what to do. You will have saved her from you. This is how she will feel, like you came and rescued her from the you that you were a minute ago. You will be their hero, even if you were the instigator.

* If you are being physically abused, leave her or seek advice.